Uncle Roger's Notebooks of Daily Life
My life is, to me, ripe with frequent challenges, occasional successes, spontaneous laughter, adequate tears, and enough *life* to last me a lifetime. To you, however, it surely seems most pedestrian. And therefore, I recycle the name I used previously and call this my Notebooks of Daily Life. Daily, because it's everyday in nature, ordinary. These conglomeration of events that are my life are of interest to me because I live it, perhaps mildly so to those who are touched by it, and could only be of perverse, morbid curiosity to anyone else. Yet, I offer them here nonetheless. Make of them what you will, and perhaps you can learn from my mistakes.
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Saturday, June 13, 2009
At this point, is there anyone surprised by another Catholic priest busted for his hands-on work with young boys? What's different about this case, however, is the claim that the priest was only giving the boy "anatomy lessons". Sure, uh-huh. Lessons that took place in his car on a bush track, at a pool, and even in his church.
Lest we let the companies that stepped up to take a stand in the KRXQ mess think they might have made a mistake, I've put together some business cards to give to employees when visiting these establishments. The cards say:
I am here today because your company took action to say that child abuse is not a joke.
After DJ's at radio station KRXQ in Sacramento verbally attacked transgendered children and promoted both verbal and physical abuse of TG kids, your company made the decision to stop advertising on KRXQ.
Making the right choice should not affect your business. You are, in fact, getting additional business and increased loyalty because of your company's stand. Please share this card with management to let them know that doing the right thing paid off.
They're formatted for Avery Business Cards, but could just as easily be printed on plain paper or cardstock and cut manually. You can download the cards in PDF format and, if you like, you can flip the paper over and run it through again to print a list of the companies on the back.
Perhaps there is some hope for our species after all. After hearing about doctors being killed in the name of saving lives, rights being taken away because of a book most of its followers have never read, and education being stripped to the bone so that we can keep buying our big screen TV's, it's nice to see people -- a lot, apparently -- and companies doing the right thing.
What does it say about our society when, in times of economic hardship, the first thing we do is cut funding for education, children's services, and healthcare for kids?
Sara, to Jared: "You know what I think of you? I think you're the best brother I ever wanted."
If you're not familiar with the KRXQ brouhaha, a couple of on-air personalities (hereafter referred to as the "idiots") decided to use their May 28th show to make fun of transgendered children. They didn't just stop with name-calling, however, but suggested that physically beating them is the proper way to deal with a transgendered child. Not surprisingly, this did not sit well with the TG community, nor with any other civilized members of our society.
It was comments such as "Dawn, they are freaks. They are abnormal. Not because they’re girls trapped in boys bodies but because they have a mental disorder that needs to be somehow gotten out of them", "You got a boy saying, ‘I wanna wear dresses.’ I’m going to look at him and go, ‘You know what? You’re a little idiot! You little dumbass! Look, you are a boy! Boys don’t wear dresses.’", and "f my son put on a pair of high heels, I would probably hit him with one of my shoes. I would throw a shoe at him."
There were phone calls made, e-mails sent, articles written, and boycotts planned. The radio station promised that the idiots would address the broadcast and their hateful remarks, but all they said, really, was "just kidding about the beating kids with a shoe part!" According to GLAAD, "While we appreciate hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States clarifying that they do not advocate violence against children, they ultimately failed to take responsibility for using dehumanizing and defamatory words to describe transgender children on last week’s show."
Of course, civilized people are outraged, but we all know that business is business and there's little room for sentiment in the business world, right? Wrong! So far, ten -- count 'em, ten! -- corporations have pulled their advertising from KRXQ in Sacramento. The first was Chipotle -- I sent them an e-mail thanking them and that evening, Jared and I both ate at Chipotle. I plan to eat there a lot more often now. They were followed by Snapple and Sonic. Now the list includes Verizon (KRXQ -- Can you hear me now?), Bank of America, Wells Fargo, and McDonald's. Makes me glad we use Verizon and Wells Fargo.
It just goes to show that sometimes businesses can make the right decision. I'm sure it was made so as not to lose customers, but still, it gives me hope.
Have you ever had someone try to help you with something and get frustrated because you don't need or want help? Have you felt somehow slighted because the other person thought you couldn't do it yourself? That's how I feel about my marriage right now.
I used to think that Rachel and I had a pretty strong marriage, an equal partnership based on shared goals and ideals, mutual respect, and, above all, love and friendship. While we certainly aren't perfect, I would never have guessed that we were in imminent danger of getting divorced. How wrong I was.
I hate prop 8.
The governor should say "Equal rights for all".
I have a friend named Benjamin that has two moms that are gay and aren't married and want to get married. I want marriage equality to come back!
We should bring back marriage equality because it's fair and what's fair can make the state a better place!
My son Jared took it upon himself to offer his take on California's proposition 8, the controversial measure that stripped the right to marry from many citizens. This post is part of Blogging for LGBT Families Day.
John came from a fine family -- his faster was a respected businessman, his mother was active in the community, and they were all prominent members of their church. At school, John was a decent student and popular with the other kids.
If you're Jewish, chances are, the holocaust has affected you somehow. If you're Black, it's likely that Martin Luther King Jr. is counted among your heroes. If you're Cherokee or Choctaw, you know the history of the Trail of Tears. But you don't have to be Jewish, Black, or Native American to understand how wrong the Holocaust, slavery and discrimination, and forced relocation are. It seems obvious to us today, but I'm sure there are still those who see Jews, Blacks, and Native Americans as something less than human -- or at least less than themselves. Most people, however, know that it is "the content of their character" that determines a person's worth, not their culture or skin color.
As many of you know, for the past three years I have been writing for the website ParentDish (originally Blogging Baby). During that time, it's gone through a lot of changes in format, style, and personnel. Through all of that, I managed to hang on, despite my notable lack of talent. I was even selected to be one of the writers for the seasonal blog Holidash. On Friday, however, just shy of my third anniversary with ParentDish, I got an e-mail that said, in part, "effective today we will no longer need you working on ParentDish." Ouch.
"Princesses are the most important thing in the world," Sara explained breathlessly. "They make the air for us! They make everything!"
How could I possibly not know that?
So we're at the Hootenanny and the organizer is up front introducing the next band. Sara runs up and tells him something.
"We are going to be late, because you are crazy!" Sara wailed plaintively from the middle row of the minivan.
Actually, that could explain a lot. "I'm not late, I'm crazy."
So I picked Sara up from school and we were chatting about her day. She told me that the day before, she had watched a movie with Miss Juliette and described what she remembered of it. It took me a moment to remember that Juliette had mentioned they watched Mary Poppins but then I asked if that were the movie. Indeed it was.